What I’ve Learned In One Minute…

Hi friends,

This week, I worked on my first ever YouTube video, deciding to pivot slightly towards longer form content. The reason was simple. I wanted more space to express myself and to get used to forming longer thoughts.

As I’ve grown, I’ve found myself connecting deeply with creators who either entertained me, taught me something, or invited me into their own journey of change. Watching that process unfold publicly made me want to do the same. Will I be going fully into long form content? No. I still feel very connected to my short form community, the people who have been watching me grow and change ten seconds at a time. But this period of experimentation, trial and error, and public failure has taught me a lot about purpose, which is exactly what my first YouTube video explores.

I think we overthink what our purpose is meant to be and whether we are on the right track towards it. From as young as I can remember, I was asked the question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” and my answer changed as the years passed.

At four years old, I’d excitedly say “President” or “Astronaut.”

At seventeen, that excitement faded into a timid “banker or engineer.”

Now, my answer sounds more like, “I don’t know, but we’ll see.”

Between the ages of seventeen and twenty, I remember dreading that question. It felt like I was being asked to decide a significant part of my future far too early. But looking back now, I realise it wasn’t that I didn’t know what I wanted to do. I was just answering the wrong question.

The real question should have been, “Who do you want to help?”

Why “who do you want to help”

I believe purpose comes from service. We tend to feel our most lost and incapable when we feel of no use to those around us. Money, career, and success are fleeting rewards. They bring momentary joy but rarely long term fulfilment. Even the richest people in the world continue working because they are driven by influence and recognition, by what they are known for contributing to the world.

Why it’s an easier question to answer

You can feel fulfilled through many different paths. When you ask, “What do you want to do?” your mind narrows the answer down to a single role. Doctor. Lawyer. Engineer. But when you ask, “Who do you want to help?” you allow yourself to move between fields without feeling like you’ve failed or switched paths too late. The purpose stays the same, even if the form it takes changes.

How to put it in context for yourself

Instead of saying, “I want to be an accountant,” you could say, “I want to help people with their finances.” That one shift opens up options. You might become an accountant. You might work in marketing for a financial company. You might build a platform that helps people track their money. The role can change, but the service remains consistent.

What matters is not the title you hold, but whether you feel you’ve helped the people you set out to help.

How you can help someone today

If the way you want to help others requires skills you haven’t learned yet or a degree you are still working towards, don’t assume your purpose has to wait. Start small. Help those who are a few steps behind you. One small act of guidance can add meaning to your day, while also strengthening your communication skills and deepening your understanding of what you’re learning.

This shift in thinking is also why I felt at peace uploading that first YouTube video. Not because it was perfect, or because it made sense career wise, but because it felt aligned with the people I want to help. At times, I still have second thoughts. Moments where I wonder if I should follow the path I’m expected to. But every time I act in service of the people I feel called to help, that doubt fades. Using what I’ve learned to give back has never felt like a distraction. Doing anything else would.

If you’re someone like me, who would have cringed at this question twenty four months ago, try replacing “What do I want to do?” with “Who do I want to help?” It might be a quieter question, but it removes pressure and allows purpose to grow with you, rather than feeling like something you need to have figured out already.

If you’d like to watch the video where I unpack this more fully, you can find it here:

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TL;DR

I started experimenting with longer form content because I wanted more space to think, speak, and express myself honestly. While doing so, I realised that much of the pressure I felt around purpose came from answering the wrong question.

Instead of asking what I want to do, I’m learning to ask who I want to help. Purpose doesn’t come from titles or timelines, but from service. When the focus stays on helping others, the path is allowed to change without losing meaning.

That shift is why uploading my first YouTube video felt right. Not because it was perfect or strategically sound, but because it aligned with the people I want to serve. And when I act from that place, doubt fades and the work feels worthwhile.

WINS & LESSONS

Win:

I came back to social media and started posting again. After some time away, it felt good to show up without overthinking it.

Lesson:

The power of habit. Currently I’ve tried to adopt new habits in my life alongside understanding the power of negative self imagery. Taking the time to understand how the first for me in understanding good habits wouldn’t be starting with a positive mindset, but just with removing the negative one.

QFYT

Who do you feel most drawn to help right now, and how might that change the way you think about what you’re supposed to be doing next?

Alright that's it from me.

In a bit,

Motheo